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Cubicle Farmer's avatar

"For generations, people have carried not only the physical burden of excess weight but also the psychological burden. Shame. Guilt. The sense that if only they tried harder, they could fix it."

In this conversation, people tend to be weirdly sensitive and thin skinned about any suggestion that they are being criticized or judged for their weight, and sensitive about the indisputable fact that extra weight is bad for your health, or that someone, somewhere might find being overweight unattractive.

Two things can be true:

1. If you "eat less and move more" (opinions vary on which of those two things is more important), you'll lose weight. (I have personally done this, so please don't bother telling me "it's impossible", I don't think I'm some weird physiological outlier and my lived experience is more persuasive to me than your words).

2. it is not *easy* to "eat less and move more". It isn't! (again, I did this and I know what was involved). It takes months at a minimum, It involves changing habits, changing how you live, saying no to family and cultural expectations about what you will eat and when, finding ways to habitually move more and integrating that into your life, in a society and built environment that does not always support this. All this takes time, and sometimes it takes money, and it takes mental bandwidth, and people don't always have a surplus of those things. But yes, it does also take willpower and belief. Being told the falsehood that "it can't be done", or that the problem is not the weight, but societies' perception of the weight, certainly doesn't help.

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Tom R's avatar

Well said & long overdue from (us in) healthcare: 'For decades, people living with excess weight have been told the same thing: "Eat less. Move more." If the weight didn't come off, the failure was framed as personal — a lack of willpower, discipline, or control.

That message was not only wrong. It was cruel.' Thank you!

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